Life is worth a Smile: January 2012

Tuesday, 24 January 2012

People don't have to!

Sensitive, I confess.
Susceptible, I am.
I get offended very easily! And for years I have tried to understand why do people behave a certain way? Why do they say certain things? Why do they change? Why don't they care?
I was just complaining to two of my closest friends for not really showing enough interest in something that I am doing. After telling them how disappointed I was, how much I was expecting from them and all the tralala, I kept quiet and heard the voice of wisdom whispering to me "they don't HAVE to!"
You see, so many times we get offended because we expect people to act the way we do, to behave, to think, to show love the way we do.
Thus we get hurt when they do not do or say things we were expecting from them.
Come on! Let's face it! We also aren't perfect!
I am sure I've hurt other people too by not doing what they were expecting me to do!
Too much expectation from others can be deceiving...so let's live more and expect less!
Life has thought me something: people come and go, people change, people love others don't.

People don't HAVE to...and if they do, it means they were meant to...
They don't have to be your friends.
If they do they were meant to...
They don't have to care
And If they do, well they were meant to...
They don't have to phone you
If they do they were meant to...
They don't have to be there
If they do they were meant to...
They don't have to understand you
If they do they were sure meant to...
They don't have to love you
If they do, trust me they were meant to...

So let's make ourselves a favour!
Let us live freely without expecting...
I am sure it will lessen the hurting!
Give without expecting to receive!
Listen without expecting to be listened to
Love without expecting to be loved
Give a phone call, SMS without expecting to get one back
Encourage without expecting to be encouraged

Keep that in mind and remember that People don't HAVE to!

PS: At the end of the day it is not about us but about Him who sees our good deeds and reward us according to them!

Go and FLOURISH!

Alvezido :-)

Monday, 23 January 2012

And I shall call Him...

Adonai Jehovah because He is the Lord God.

Jehovah Eli because He is my Lord, my God.

Jehovah El Elohim because He is the LORD GOD of gods.

Jehovah Immeka because He is with me.

Jehovah Machsi because He is My refuge.

Jehovah Mauzzi because He is My fortress.

Jehovah Shalom because He is My peace.

Jehovah Sali because He is My Rock.

Jehovah-jireth because He is My provider.

Jehovah Elyon because He is the MOST HIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

El Hayyay because He is the GOD of My life.

Elhoe Mauzi because He is the GOD of My strength.

El Nose because He is the GOD that forgave me.

El Emunah because He is The faithful GOD.

Jehovah because He is the self-existing One!

The great I AM, the Author of My heart!

Every single beat of my heart, every breath I take shall try to express my love for You but even this won't be enough...
The BEST I never had...You are!

Misunderstood...but I am a LEADER

I woke up this morning feeling like writing. As i was looking for inspiration, I decided to go back to one of the book I read from T.D Jakes to find a quote that would help me write what I had in mind.
I found the quote I was looking for...
However, without really knowing why, i kept turning the pages as if i was looking for something else.
And there it was on page 67, God was speaking to me...answering me and providing me with a solution to something that was really bothering me...the feeling of being misunderstood.
Yup! That feeling was hiding deep down, and even though I had spoken about it to one or 2 people and even to God Himself, today that feeling was hiding deep down, hiding in the dark.
But because HE knows me better than I know myself, He managed to bring that feeling out, expose it to the light so that I see clearer and get stronger.
So here is the message...

Accept Being Controversial

(T.D Jakes, Before You Do p67)

"Exercising leadership requires that you accept being controversial.

Many people will not accept where you're going until after you get there. They don't understand the mind-set of a leader, because their opinions are based on where they are in life, not where you see your life going. Necessary members of your team (circle of friends) may have myopic visions; they are unable or unwilling to see the forest for the trees.

They are not the global thinkers you are. Leaders are not limited to one dimension but see the entire panoramic view of the team, their goals and life itself.

The difference in perspective between their myopic views and your panoramic view usually creates controversy, and a good leader has to be strong enough to live with the turmoil that comes from being misunderstood.

The controversies will hit you from many different direction and some will even emerge from those closest to you. These can be people who disagree with you. They want you to do and to be who they want and need, not necessarily who you must become according to your own personal sense of mission."

"You show leadership in the way you choose to live your life, the way you interact with others no matter what their social status, and the example you set for your family, friends, and others you come into contact with"- T.D Jakes

And to this I say:

I have chosen to be a child of God...chosen to make Him the centre of my life.

I have chosen to take the challenge to change the way I live, the way I speak, the way I think.

This won't be easy and will require patience, discipline, self-control but with the word of God I shall make it.

I have chosen to live my life a certain way...chosen to make wisdom my best friend.

For this is my Father's will for my life, I shall be contested but not defeated.

Thus I am a LEADER and today I accept to be controversial, arguable, questionable.

I accept being disputed, being misunderstood!

I accept to be called weird, for it is better to be weird in Jesus then to be weird in the world!

I am a LEADER, my vision is not blurred!

I see where I am going!

I am a LEADER!

Alvezido :-)

Monday, 16 January 2012

Don't Waste This Year- Coming Out Head First

Every year I come up with new resolutions. By the end of the year only a few of them are met if not to say none of them. Maybe because of laziness? A lack of discipline? Or again, PROCRASTINATION?
Well, no matter what the reasons are, at the end of each year, I just hate to feel like I haven't accomplished anything.
I came across a message from Bishop T.D Jakes which really spoke to me. I believe this message was really a call for change, overcoming negativity by coming out of your comfort zone.
I couldn't go on listening to this message without taking notes...

Coming Out Head First

"No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment; or else the new piece pulls away from the old, and the tear is made worse. And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; or else the new wine bursts the wineskins, the wine is spilled, and the wineskins are ruined. But new wine must be put into new wineskins.” Mark 2:21-22

" So this year I might have to fight a new devil but I REFUSE to fight an old one.

I might have to face a new mess but I REFUSE to be in an old one.

I have made up my mind! I CANNOT waste this year.

It is my year of direction, my year of destiny, my year of FOCUS.

My mind need to have the elasticity to receive the things of God!

Therefore I gotta get my mind ready, get my attitude ready!

No time to be depressed! This is the year!

I have made up my mind, no matter what happens I will REJOICE!

My mind is a weapon because it is with it that I serve the Lord.

So let me get it in my head now: healing begins in my head, deliverance begins in my head, happiness begins in my head.

I need to have a new mind for new things!

New ideas, new dreams.

God's gonna pull me from my mind so I'm gonna come out HEAD FIRST!

And if my head comes out, my body needs to follow!

If i can get it in my head that I am more than a conqueror, my body will follow!

I am coming out HEAD FIRST!

It is my new mind that is gonna give me a new year!

I am coming out HEAD FIRST! " - T.D Jakes

PS: you can buy the DVD if you want or find it on youtube

Go and FLOURISH!

Alvezido :-)

Sunday, 15 January 2012

Hello Procrastination can we get a Divorce?

In my previous post I spoke about being REAL to ourselves by exposing our negative side.
Well one of my biggest problem has always been the one and only Procrastination.
Hands up if you're like me!!!!
A Pro to Procrastination, we dated and even got married.
But obviously Procrastination was cheating all along.
The worst thing is that I knew it! Procrastination did me wrong!
But thanks to God I always managed to stand up again.
This was an abusing relationship in which I had chosen to stay...
Until a couple of weeks ago i decided it was time for a change.
It is official now: I WANT A DIVORCE!!!!

I almost failed some projects, assignments, tests, or even a year at university because of YOU!
I am 23 years old, have a car but still CANNOT drive because of YOU (so embarrassing)
I always have to make excuses or lie because of YOU
I happened to run late to classes, to meetings, to work because of the "I'll sleep just 5 more min" famous line and that's YOU
I wasn't diligent, disciplined like I should have been because of YOU
YOU feed me with laziness, excuses, lies...
It is ENOUGH!!!!
I have made up my mind...
Procrastination I WANT a DIVORCE!
Ciao, goodbye, adios, aurevoir!!!!

The Bible says in Proverbs 6:9-11 "When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest-and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man".
Isn't that clear enough??? NO I don't wanna be poor! Like are you joking???

Divorces are usually painful but oooohhh this one feels GOOD!
No regret! It's a new day therefore new opportunity for change!
Goodbye Procrastination! I will surely miss you... NOT!

Alvezido

Saturday, 14 January 2012

REAL

REAL: Adjective

Actually existing as a thing or occurring in fact; not imagined or supposed
True and actual; not imaginary, alleged, or ideal
Genuine and authentic; not artificial or spurious
implies authenticity, genuineness, or factuality
Implies sincerity, honesty.

(Thanks to The Free online Dictionary)

Now I am sure we all use or hear the word Real pretty often.
"Real Recognize Real", "Keepin'it Real" etc we've heard it...
"I want a Real man/woman", "Don't trynna fake it, be Real", "I like Real people", "It's not even her Real hair/boobs"etc we've said it...
Being Real to others is a good attitude, therefore wanting Real from people is totally normal.
But can I ask a question?
Are we REAL to ourselves? Are we True, are we Sincere are we Honest towards ourselves?

We are so focused wanting to be the Ideal-self that we forget about the Real-self.
The Ideal-self is the person we want to be, a fantasy of how we want to be...All the good qualities we wish we had etc. In other words it is when we think "I should be like this...".
I should be honest, I should be strong, I should be patient, I should be kind, I should be happy, I should be helpful and not selfish...
The Real-self however is who we are! Our personality, our flaws, our positives, our negatives.

We all have some qualities...but the negative side is what we tend to hide!
To be Real with yourself means to expose, to be honest, to reveal...
So, for a minute let's put the good qualities on hold and let the bad one speak...
Our imperfections when exposed are subject to correction...

So take a piece of paper today and write about your flaws
Don't accept them. Acknowledge them!
Once done, Pray for change...
You've just made yourself a favour,
You recognized the Real-self.

Go and FLOURISH! :-)

Alvezido

Life is Worth a Smile

Has it ever happened to you to wake up in the morning feeling down? Feeling like giving up? Feeling like crying? Feeling like there was no solution to your problems?
Well trust me it happened to me soooooo many times!
But as i woke up one day feeling that way, there was this little voice whispering in my ears Life is Worth a Smile.
Life is worth a smile? I wondered. But before i even realized it, I wasn't wondering anymore but soon believed that this life of mine indeed was worth a smile.
So to God I write:

"You allowed me to see a new day...

Therefore Life is Worth a smile.

You never extend days beyond purpose...

Therefore Life is Worth a smile.

When I wake up in the morning it is You giving me a new opportunity to do better, think better, live better...

Therefore Life is Worth a smile.

You are so patient with me Lord...